This is a very very rough draft idea I came up with after wanting to help someone and then a 2nd person needing the same advice I just gave out. I was told by a few people that I am a really good teacher and I can explain things in a way that is easy to understand, this gave me the confidence to actually try and help more people with my experience and knowledge. on with the show:
I have had a tough year (as many of us have), on top of that I have had a tough 26 years dealing with depression, anxiety and many other bad or low moods. But in the last year I have gotten over my depression and now I am getting over my sadness, I have gained much wisdom and learnt from many places.
Ok a little background, I didn't have depression because of a broken mind, I had depression because I was diagnosed with it, but it turned out November 2019 I was chatting to a psychiatrists and he said "you do know you have autism right?", "I just casually said "yeah I thought I might", but hearing those words and him saying I have Asperger's made me switch my hyper focus away from modding OS's and using PC's to distract myself into learning all about it - the limitations, the struggles and the different way we process the world. I was shocked to see all the things I had a hard time doing were so common amongst Asperger's and many cross over with Depression/Introverts that I had to learn more. I made the connection that if it's just a processing issue then it's not real and only my perceptions stopping me. This led me to me becoming open and "awake", I started learning that people are what's most important and I gradually switched to becoming a sort of extrovert. all my limitations were gone, all my bad/broken/uniqueness\weirdness had started to become my strengths. The struggles I went through made me strong enough that I could be myself without worrying what the world thinks or if they judge me. I noticed my biggest flaw and it needed months of me youtubing and learning. I was emotionally immature (Here is the video that gave me the tools I used to build on that);
Anyway on to the idea;
Please Pick Me Up <- Working name.
Main purpose and design - Make a online multiple choice quiz that will find the cause of known depression types and offer solutions and ideas to help reduce or even stop it. Expand to cover Anxiety and other issues as I learn about them.
The way it will work is the user picks the things that are relevant to their life and it generates a paragraph or so letting them know ways to deal with it, insights and actual advice. As it's not a diagnosis or medical advice it is legal and my thoughts are if it helps one or two people then it is worth my time. I find that the quiz method makes you invest and spend the time to read the results and that is why I try to connect to the user.
Will have a disclaimer on it that it works for you but you dont take responsibility for how it affects any one else
Some of the questions I have so far (still very early I just want to put it out there and I trust my team to give feedback and support
sorry I have been very absent but I was on a journey and growing and now I am back);Have you felt suicidal in your life? - (Yes / No) -
Yes - result/response may be something like ("Low self worth and those kinds of feelings are made up in your head when you don't feel a connection to a community", advice may be " the best thing you can do to build community is communication (people are not going to be put off by your low moods they will want to help you, your brain plays tricks on you), this leads to you wanting to help them back and this is how it builds and begins to heal you self value".
No - "I am glad that you have lived a life filled with self worth and purpose." or maybe say nothing depending on the feedback from users.
Do you have low energy? - (Yes / No) -
Yes - "The amount of energy your body feels is relating to the rest your mind has and the exercise you did the days and weeks before". Advice - "When you take a break in life to rest your mind, do use it focusing on the problems or judging yourself, just let things go you can't control or tell yourself you will deal with them later when you have the energy and time to deal with them." "Any form of exercise every day will build up your energy levels, this leads to your brain releasing chemicals that make you feel good and makes you actually want to exercise, it just takes a week or two to feel the change, stick to it and even if you don't feel like it, go anyway and you'll thank yourself for the effort".
* Not all will be yes and no, but some can be.
Many, many more insights and questions I can now answer but I need a good length of time to document them all and I will work on this as I find time, I may need to borrow the server to build the site so whoever is paying the hosting costs at the moment, let me know the details so I can contribute again please.
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Some of my Realizations;
Steps to peace and how peace is required for happiness
Suicide, is focusing on your own problems too much. Let go of the things you can not change and know your the only you so stop judging and comparing yourself to others.
Helping/teaching others is the leading cause of joy in life.
It takes 60 to 90 seconds to have a physical feeling pass, breath through it instead of reacting.
* Will edit/add as I get time, feedback can start whenever you guys have some free time to consider if you are interested in building this, using this or just being supportive.
Thank you in advance
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Started it now, no going back:
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Possible layout and generation method:
Code:
// The Answer levels sort the order of information and the amount of detail for each generated response.
/*Example
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Question:
Have you ever quacked?
Answers:
Never, Once, Sometimes, Always
Reasons:
Your a Duck
You heard a duck and couldnt see one
Advice:
Stop quacking or caring if you quack, thats quackers.
Resources:
http://www.stopthequacking.com
http://www.lowflyingducks.com/page3
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//Template
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Question:
Answers:
Never, Once, Sometimes, Always
Reasons:
Advice:
Resources:
*/
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Question:
Have you ever felt suicidal?
Answers:
Never, Once, Sometimes, Always
Reasons:
Focusing on your own problems.
Lack of Community.
Advice:
Do not be afraid to talk to people about it, they want to help you through it.
Try to help others deal with their problems.
Resources:
None
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Have you ever felt worthless?
Answers:
Never, Once, Sometimes, Always
Reasons:
You do not have a big enough support network of friends, each person can give you a different perspective.
Advice:
You should stop judging and comparing yourself to others, there isn't another you in the world so be yourself, you are enough to just exist.
Resources:
None
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Question:
Do you ever lose control of your emotions/responses?
Answers:
Never, Once, Sometimes, Always
Reasons:
You could have a low Emotional Maturity in one or all areas of your life.
You are suffering through a life event that you can't yet resolve.
You have stresses that decrease you ability to currently stay calm.
Advice:
An emotion is a physical response before it's a mental one, but the physical response only lasts between 60 and 90 seconds and then goes away. If you breath through that time you can think and give a controlled reaction.
You may be taking something personally or as an attack on you, but it's usually the other person is dealing with their own issues, so let them have their say, you don't have to fight to be right, you just need to see both your side and theirs (even if you disagree).
If your angry with yourself then you need to be as forgiving as you are to other people when they disappoint your expectations.
Resources:
https://youtu.be/EKy19WzkPxE
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Question:
Do you find it hard to be happy?
Answers:
Never, Once, Sometimes, Always
Reasons:
You may feel afraid or feeling nothing at all, this is a normal reaction to feeling unheard, alone, forgotten, less than others.
You may have place your happiness on to another person instead of taking responsiblity for your own happiness.
Advice:
Before you can have happiness you have to have peace, until you can remove the fears from your mind and be present now instead of thinking about the past or the future, you can not feel contented and become happy.
You need to realise that happiness is a choice and something you feel about yourself, it doesn't depend on anyone or anything else, it's all just how you feel about yourself right now.
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Working template in place, still lots of work to do
http://lastos.org/team/pleasepickmeup
* Added a simple quiz Javascript so far, may change to mySQL and php instead, but can build a quicker template to get the data generation happening first. Has a taste of some insights, but much more to come
MS destroyed all that